We get so many of the same questions lately that we're starting to really refine our answers. Thought I'd share a few.
Q: How long have you known you wanted to Foster children.
A: I read an article when I was 14 about seriously abused children and wanted to do something. But I knew it would happen when I met my husband. He taught karate to children through college and was so patient, constant and firm I knew his skills had to be shared.
Q: Do you worry about getting attached and then losing a foster child?
A: No- I absolutely know we will get attached and we know their future is not our decision. I'm not sure what it will do to us, but it can't be any worse pain than what these children go through. Taking a sweet breath on this planet means sorrow ahead, but we at least have a warning this time.
Q: Is it a hard adjustment for your schedule and family?
A: I was braced for it but in truth it has been smooth for us. We still have smudges from our other children on the wall so what is one more? It suits us fine to just have one more in the mix since we are already in this stage of life. Diapers and night feedings will get old someday but we're still young (no snickering) so why not a little longer?
Q: What is the story with the parents?
A: We tell people they are addicted to drugs and are really trying to come clean. But truthfully, we learned that each child and each situation has it's right to privacy. Every human being has their ups and downs and struggles. Each foster child has a story that is really private and were they old enough to say so, probably wouldn't want people to know all they've been through. As much as I love a good story, I just need to know my job. We pray for these parents and hope for reunification.
A Q & A with a foster sister.
I over heard my daughter explain on a play date that "I was born from my mommy's tummy, but my foster sister wasn't". Somehow, my children have all just taken this whole thing in stride. Even my oldest is adjusted to her now. What ever upsets they may have experienced will be offset by lessons I could never have taught them otherwise.
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I have been saddened at times by those who just want to hear my kids story and not know my children.It's not about what/where they came from.It is about their potential and who they can become, and my role as a parent in that process. They want to know which child is related to which other child? ummmmmm, they are all mine, all related. Sometimes all the questions can be daunting. Sounds like you handled it much better than I did.
Children have such a great capacity to love what a sweet answer from your daughter.
Thanks for the q&a--I always love a good q&a!
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You are an amazing mother, Jenny. Your confidence in the spirits you are teaching and loving is inspiring. Your trust in Heavenly Father is comforting. Your respect for others' lives and choices is beautiful!
I'm so excited that your family can offer such a heavenly haven for children who are sent your way. You are doing an amazing work!
I love this and appreciate Diaper Diva's comments as well. It makes you stop and think about one's own evaluation of another, if that makes sense. Thanks foster moms!
I do know Vic is coming, we are hosting the shin dig at our house. Jen is doing all the work I am just providing the house we R excited. So we share the same agency. We wanted to be there but my cousin was in town.
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